Everyone's in the house because of the lockdown. The amount of time that the whole family spends together during this time may never have been different. Especially in families where both parents are employed. Both of them stay outside for work. Nor is the child available because of being in school. So at this time everyone is spending 24 hours together. Before, what the child was doing, how he was spending his time, was not always in sight. So controlling the child may not always be possible. But now many people want to control the child. But it is normal that the child will be a little upset. So treat the child at this time in such a way that anything negative does not happen.
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| Make the child a friend, not a pressure on the lockdown |
You may think you are in tension where your children are having fun. But it is not like that. He also has various concerns. He is also very worried about when the school will open, when he will meet his friends, when the quarantine will pass away, etc. So don't make it unbearable to stay in house by ruling all the time. You have to make a environment so that the child can have fun while abiding by your rules. It is not impossible to solve all these problems if you try to talk sense to the the child a little. Make changes to your behaviour if necessary. E.g.
- Discuss what you will do, with your child. Don't ignore his opinion all the time.
Talk and make a routine. How long will he read, how long will he watch TV, how long will he play games and how long will he help you in your work. In the same way, go to bed, get up in the morning, do light exercise and how long he will practice a hobby, make an outline of it. Notice how much he is following the routine. Remind him at the end of the day if he did any irregularities. This will reduce unrest, he will learn to take responsibility. Learn discipline. If you act grumpy all the time, that is not likely to happen at all.
If the child obeys the rules, give him some gifts that make him happy or cook and feed him.
- If the routine is new, then the child will agree at first, but then it will slow down. Be patient. Remind yourself regularly without blaming. It will improve time to time.
- On the day when he obeys the whole rule or reduces irregularities, he can make and eat any food of his choice. Or he can play or watch any game or show of his choice for more than half an hour. Explain that it is a reward for obeying rules. In other words, the rule is that if he obeys the rules, he will be rewarded and if he does not obey, he will be reprimanded.
- If he has a special claim, don't completely shut him down without listening. listen carefully to what he wants to say. Think about whether it will do him any harm. If not, accept 5-6 out of 10. Then he will not have any complaints about those demands which you have refused.
- Do not compare your kid with others. If any of his friends or neighbors are doing well or helping with the housework while he is not doing anything, don't tell him about that. All this will not be of any benefit, but the unrest will increase.
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